The Mistakes, One should ‘Never’ Make

You probably have made millions of mistakes in your life, and that is okay. Because we are humans. We are tend to make mistakes, that’s how we learn. But remember this, under no circumstances, you should ever make these mistakes:


1. The mistake of believing that you are not good enough, or that you do not deserve something good, or that its all over.

2. The mistake of  losing belief in ‘starting over.’

3. The mistake of staying in that pile of blunders, you once made.

last but not the least,

4. The mistake of quitting to be a better person than you were yesterday.

– aak92

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Are You Playing Your Role Right?

I have been thinking about writing on this issue for quite a while but I was hesitant. I was hesitant, because of what ifs. This ‘what if’ stood in my way like a huge boulder and forced me to back off, every time. But now I feel like I can’t hold back what I want to say.

So, here it goes. Read it ’till the end then share your thoughts. Anything you want to add or minus, you are welcome.

First of all, lets see what Feminism actually means:

“The advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the EQUALITY of male and female.”

You see here, feminism means EQUALITY of genders and NOT superiority of females over male population. There was a time when feminism meant exactly that. The equality, fighting for the rights of female population, so that they are not cornered into brutality like being splashed with acid, or being raped or being used as currency for marriage and other stuff like that. But that’s not what feminism is about anymore. It has turned into a strive for something else.

I am not against speaking up and striving for the girls and women who are undergoing some savage act. Come on, I am a girl myself. I am just not in favor of where the movement is heading. For what it once stood for, was the right approach, but what it has become, is just unacceptable.

Even when we are talking equality, what kind of equality are you really aiming for? Men and women are already equal. They work side by side to make a life, only in different ways. That’s not a cruelty. Why it has to be like this, that if a man can do something, the woman has to do it too, in order to prove herself. That is not equality, that is competition. Why women are trying so hard to prove that they are better than men? Or why men think that they are better than women? When you talk about equality you can’t demand special attention.

There is no competition we are running here. Definitely NOT between men and women. Men have some responsibilities, women have others, that’s how it works. Our Lord has created a balance for our own good. He had it designed for us. When we mess with it, we topple.

These days, numerous women are so busy in competing that they have forgotten their basic responsibilities. They think that they are some sort of goddess, who do not exit to please their partners but their partners have to make them happy. Rubbish!! 

I agree that in some cases, you have to leave home, but not for a competition or because you have to prove something, but because you love your family and you want to share their burden. That is a totally different thing. When a decision is made together, it is not about superiority or some sort of competition, you do this because you are a thoughtful person.

Feminism is suppose to be about equality of genders right? Rather about creating a hate cult against men. I, myself is not in favor of this 21st century feminism because what this movement stands for today is not what I believe in.  I believe in traditional family values. I believe in boundaries, respect, care, and traditional roles.

You got to understand this, there are all sorts of people in this world, good, bad, evil, wicked etc. These qualities cannot be limited to a single gender. We can’t say that all men are like this or all women are like this. No labels please. We all have our places, if we can only find that, everything will fall into place.

You know what we should do, we should fight for rights and not superiority, spread love instead of creating a hate cult against each other. We should teach our kids, our boys and our girls as well, about respect, about boundaries. Our roles have already been given to us, play them well and then maybe we can change this world for the better.

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Islam, Veiling and Society

Isn’t it funny how the society says, “Do not judge a book by its cover.” But then it turns and go about judging the girls/women in cover.

What’s wrong with this, if a lady covers herself with a decent dressing or a dupatta or a scarf or hijabs and gowns or niqab? Huh?

Our religion, Islam, has a dress code for females.

And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their khimār over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women (friends), or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments.

(Surah An-Nur [24:31])

Even with this knowledge, our people are so naive, so judgemental. Some are like, “Why she covers herself? Does she have something to hide?” While some go by, “When you have no flaw, why cover? Why not show your beauty to the world?”

I have a question for all those people,“Have you seen that food which is placed uncovered? All the flies, dirt, germs and numerous other filthy things find an opening to it.  Will you take a bite/sip knowing it has been exposed to the filthiness? Not without a doubt. Eventually, you throw it away. What a waste! But think, if you would have covered it, not because it has some flaw but to protect it from all that filthiness, would that have been better?

Similarly, a female covers herself, not because she has a flaw to hide but because it is her IDENTITY! She is protecting herself from every random/filthy eye to sit on her. She is displaying her faith instead of her body. Just tell me what is wrong with that?”

If a woman is free to show her body then why is she judged when she chooses to cover it?

I agree there are some who uses the ‘covering‘ for ‘hiding‘ purposes but who are you to judge? Are you perfect? I know you are not. Because we are humans and we are not suppose to be perfect. But one should always keep trying to be close to it. That’s why if someone decides to edge towards being better, don’t create hurdles in their path instead be appreciative. May Allah have mercy upon you and all of us. (Ameen)

Classy is when a woman has everything to flaunt but chooses not to show it.

May Allah help all of us to make ourselves a better person than we were yesterday. (Ameen)

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